I came across a post on Facebook the other day that I can't shake:
Strong women fix another Queen's crown
without telling the world it was crooked.
I thought about that for a long time, and considered what it meant for my life. I was stunned.
Too often I hear stories of crooked crowns and what the wearer has done or not done that resulted in her crooked state. These stories are told to emphasize the straightener’s good deed, while too often emphasizing the errors made by the wearer.
Some of you know I'm not a Queen. I'm a King. I've experienced a crooked crown state as often as a bad hair day. And, I've been fortunate to have folks in my life who have straightened my crown.
After reading the post, I began to wonder how many did it without telling the story. Truth be told, I don't know. How many of us know the stories that are told about us? How many of us straighten crowns and tell our own back stories?
I know two women who straighten crowns quietly, sincerely and often. I've never heard them tell tales of their valor. I know because I've watched them straighten crowns and never say a word. I know because they straighten my crown all the time.
Sam and Allison teach Kundalini Yoga at Sat Nam Studios with grit and grace. Sam has helped me tame the defiant girth of my darling behind. She's vigilant about delivering a class with integrity and poise while giving no quarter. Hence the taming of the girth. But, she does more. She lets you know you are an original deserving of care and preservation. She keeps my counsel.
Allison helps me polish my heart so it is gleaming for myself and others. No one touches me like Allison when she teaches. If the soul resides behind the heart, Allison reaches it with ease. More importantly, she helps me reach it and shower it with appreciation. She has my trust.
Privately, straightening crowns is a dirty business; it is thankless and lonely. Bragging about it sullies it in public. Telling why it was crooked is just bad manners. When you take a class with Sam and Allison, be assured you will never be the subject of a crown straightening story.
I am forever grateful to Sam and Allison for straightening my crown and keeping the stories to themselves.
So here's what I've learned: find a teacher who won't bolster themselves at your expense, and don't straighten crowns to make yourself feel superior.
Cher teaches Wednesdays at 10:30 am and 7:00 pm.